Appa23 wrote: Keep in mind that I am not saying that a parent should not give a reason beyond "I said so". I am saying that a child, merely by virtue of his age, does not have the inherent right for a reason beyond "I said so."
My kids have been questioning authority since they learned to talk.
That's what I like about them.
"I said so" seldom works with them, but I have found that they question me less as they get older.
It makes it more difficult to parent, but I am not the only person they question.
Today, for instance, Emma has to go to the S.A.F.E. program. (It's like DARE.) The instructor, a Placentia police officer has already been caught in a lie by Emma and when I wrote her a letter about her comments, she tried to lie again and get Emma in trouble. (Emma's teacher confirmed that Emma was telling the truth and the officer lied.)
Last week the S.A.F.E. officer said that all alcohol is bad. Emma, not believing her, spent time reading about the impact of red wine on cholesterol levels and is prepared to confront her today.
Emma's teacher has told me that he enjoys watching Emma spar with the lady because Emma can say the things that he would like to say...