Mom is dancing with Dad again

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Mom is dancing with Dad again

#1 Post by T_Bone0806 » Tue Jun 17, 2008 6:50 pm

Mom passed yesterday morning. Like Babe Ruth, she called her shot. Sunday she saw quite a bit of him and was talking to him a lot. She was aware of us, too, and responded to us, but she was going back and forth between the two worlds.

Sunday would've been Dad's 77th birthday. My sister asked Mom if she was going to be with Dad on his birthday, and she thought for a minute then said.."No..tomorrow". 7:20 the next morning she was gone. Her passing was pretty peaceful, but the last few years of her life were full of discomfort and struggle. I can only hope that, as I experience the same difficulties she did, that I face them with even half the dignity and courage that she did.

Of course we are going to miss her like crazy, but along with the mourning comes the relief in knowing that she has shed her disfunctional body and is now dancing again.

My cousin wrote a blog entry about Mom and she has captured Mom's essence very very well. Here it is if you are interested in reading it...


http://aviewofthelake.blogspot.com/2008 ... -kind.html

The next couple of days will be very busy, obviously, but things have quieted down for tonight, and I wanted to share the news with my friends here. I'll be back in a few days.
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#2 Post by Ritterskoop » Tue Jun 17, 2008 6:53 pm

I'm glad this was relatively serene. I know you will miss her.

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#3 Post by NSAS » Tue Jun 17, 2008 6:59 pm

I'm so sorry for your loss.

That was a great tribute to your Mom.
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#4 Post by silvercamaro » Tue Jun 17, 2008 7:11 pm

I am so sorry. I know you will miss her beyond missing her. Still, I'm very pleased that she could pick her day, her dancing partner, and the music.

Furthermore, I know she lives on in you and your family.

Hugs and love go to all of you.

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#5 Post by hermillion » Tue Jun 17, 2008 7:14 pm

What a lovely tribute to your mom. All who love your mom are in my prayers.
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#6 Post by a1mamacat » Tue Jun 17, 2008 7:41 pm

Sending hugs and love to you all. Your family is blessed to have had her in your lives.

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#7 Post by DevilKitty100 » Tue Jun 17, 2008 8:02 pm

Thom, I don't know when I've learned so much about a person I've never met in so few beautifully crafted words. What a beautiful and eloquent tribute to Your Mother.

At my Dad's funeral, the soloist sang a song that contained they lyrics of (and I'm kind of paraphrasing) "if you could see the face I'm seeing, if you could see the smile I'm seeing, you would not cry for me." I knew my Dad was seeing my Mother's face and smile as surely as your Mom is seeing your Dad's face and smile.

May love and comfort be with you.

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#8 Post by KillerTomato » Tue Jun 17, 2008 8:28 pm

T-man, your mom sounds like a wonderful woman. I think it's obvious that this, like the MD, is genetic as well.

I'm sure that she and your dad are wearing new patterns in the carpets of heaven right now.
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#9 Post by mellytu74 » Tue Jun 17, 2008 8:32 pm

T-Bone --

Thank you for that lovely message and posting your cousin's blog entry.

Know that your and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
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#10 Post by kayrharris » Tue Jun 17, 2008 8:52 pm

I'm so sorry T-bone and sincerely appreciate you sharing the blog. It's a wonderful tribute to your mom. May she rest in peace. Hugs to you and your entire family. Kay
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#11 Post by Snaxx » Tue Jun 17, 2008 9:09 pm

My condolences to you and your family.







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#12 Post by elwoodblues » Tue Jun 17, 2008 9:15 pm

I am very sorry for your loss.

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#13 Post by ontellen » Tue Jun 17, 2008 10:20 pm

So sorry to hear of your loss. May she and your Dad dance in heaven forever.

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#14 Post by SportsFan68 » Tue Jun 17, 2008 11:07 pm

I'm sorry for your loss, T-Bone. I appreciate the wonderful tribute. No one could have written it better -- from the heart.

I'll be thinking of you often in the difficult days ahead.
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#15 Post by peacock2121 » Wed Jun 18, 2008 3:33 am

You have so much of your mom in you (when I read "determined spirit", I said "She gave that to T-Bone). She will never really be gone. She lives in you.

May you find comfort in knowing that.

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#16 Post by themanintheseersuckersuit » Wed Jun 18, 2008 5:19 am

I'm so sorry for loss. thanks for sharing your memories.
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#17 Post by mrkelley23 » Wed Jun 18, 2008 5:48 am

TBone, I don't know if you were typing thru tears or not, but it was a classy message from a message from a classy individual. Best thoughts to you and yours.
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#18 Post by kusch » Wed Jun 18, 2008 5:58 am

Thoughts and prayers to you and your family tbone. Thanks for sharing.

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#19 Post by MarleysGh0st » Wed Jun 18, 2008 6:42 am

RIP, T-Bone's Mom.

Condolences to you and your family, T-Bone.

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#20 Post by christie1111 » Wed Jun 18, 2008 6:49 am

I am so sorry for your loss.

But it sounds like she was ready and truly picked the time.

Remember all the good times and cherish them.
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#21 Post by nitrah55 » Wed Jun 18, 2008 6:51 am

It sounds like she had a good life, as tough as it was.

Prayers from here for you and your family.

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#22 Post by starfish1113 » Wed Jun 18, 2008 7:05 am

T-Bone, I'm sorry for your loss. Your post (and your cousin's blog) were beautiful.

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#23 Post by JBillyGirl » Wed Jun 18, 2008 7:21 am

It sounds like your mom was truly a wonderful woman. I'm very sorry that you've lost her, but I'm glad that she died in peace and that she is no longer suffering. I hope she gets to cook all her favorite foods in heaven and dance up a storm with your dad.

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#24 Post by Beebs52 » Wed Jun 18, 2008 7:41 am

Mr. Bone-all my heartfelt condolences, but I sense, based on what you have said and what your cousin has said, this is one massive blessing for her (your mom), and you and your family seem so selfless when dealing with your loved ones, that in the end all is good.
Still, hugs, prayers and strength from here.
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#25 Post by tlynn78 » Wed Jun 18, 2008 9:18 am

T-Bone, I'm sorry for your loss, and know you will miss her. I am so happy for her. She'll always be with you - and now you don't need a phone to talk to her.


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