Wedding Blog: BD**2 - 107

[gsabc]

As I begin this entry about my beloved daughter, my online radio station is playing Stevie Wonder and "Isn't She Lovely?" Appropriate.

Clarification on the religion issue. I am Jewish. GW is Christian. Raised Presbyterian, hasn't practiced it in forever. I go to temple on the High Holidays and keep Passover (Matzoh. 'Nuff said.), but not Sabbath services or kosher laws. GW doesn't attend any formal religious services, but observes Easter and Christmas. Neither BD nor HS are religious, though they follow the ceremonies of the parents' religions.

FSIL is also not particularly religious. His dogtags read ND for "non-denominational". We figured having a chaplain officiate at the wedding would get us someone who was a) military, and b) used to ecumenical services. Also free or low-cost, we're not sure. Since none of the chaplains any of us have contacted have returned calls (FSIL has made his share of calls as well), we are turning to a rabbi my family knows. He presided over several family funerals, including my dad's and the recent one for my BIL's mother, and at least one family wedding. More importantly, he seems willing to do non-denominational. The one restriction we know of is no mention of Jesus. FSIL is okay with that. Can't tell you about his parents' feelings, though. Need to check that out.

However, I only last night found out that BD is okay with a justice of the peace. It was apparently GW who had the objections, not BD. We're getting up against deadlines here, so we will be contacting the venue for nearby JP contacts. Our meeting with the rabbi is tomorrow. I'll let you know how it goes.

[MarleysGh0st]

(FSIL has made his share of calls as well)

I'm glad you said this, since reports of his involvement have been rather negative, overall.

I don't understand GW's objections to a justice of the peace, given the circumstances you've described.

[kayrharris]

I tried to study up on Justice of the Peace and still don't really understand it. My daughter had our Probate Judge officiate at her wedding at our house. He brought a Bible and used some scripture during the ceremony. I guess maybe that is optional. I do know if you choose to go to the court house and get married, he is the one who will officiate.

Perhaps JP and Probate Judges are similar in what they do. Our Probate Judge is an elected position.

[peacock2121]

My former business partner performed my wedding ceremony. For $25.00 he became a reverend through some site on the internet. The man who introduced Pealette to her husband did the same thing for them.

Maybe a close friend of either BD or fsil can do that and officiate.

[Appa23]

My former business partner performed my wedding ceremony. For $25.00 he became a reverend through some site on the internet. The man who introduced Pealette to her husband did the same thing for them.

Maybe a close friend of either BD or fsil can do that and officiate.

Nobody becomes a real "reverend" for $25 or over the Internet.

Same goes for doctors, lawyers, . . .

[peacock2121]

My former business partner performed my wedding ceremony. For $25.00 he became a reverend through some site on the internet. The man who introduced Pealette to her husband did the same thing for them.

Maybe a close friend of either BD or fsil can do that and officiate.

Nobody becomes a real "reverend" for $25 or over the Internet.

Same goes for doctors, lawyers, . . .

Hmmmmm...... you would be the last person I would expect to start talking about 'real' anything. I am sure we have both been told we are not 'real' parents.

Jim is a reverend and performed the ceremony. Dan is a reverend and performed the ceremony.

http://www.themonastery.org/?destination=ordination

[gsabc]

My former business partner performed my wedding ceremony. For $25.00 he became a reverend through some site on the internet. The man who introduced Pealette to her husband did the same thing for them.

Maybe a close friend of either BD or fsil can do that and officiate.

I was an ordained minister from the Universal Life Church, thanks to an ad in a college-era National Lampoon. Wish I could find my membership card. My dad got the biggest kick out of the idea when I showed it to him. I don't think GW would get the same kick if I tried to officiate. And the kick she would give me would NOT be pleasant.

[MarleysGh0st]

Hmmmmm...... you would be the last person I would expect to start talking about 'real' anything. I am sure we have both been told we are not 'real' parents.

Now you've done it! You've touched a tripwire!

[peacock2121]

Hmmmmm...... you would be the last person I would expect to start talking about 'real' anything. I am sure we have both been told we are not 'real' parents.

Now you've done it! You've touched a tripwire!

But not a real tripwire.

[Appa23]

My former business partner performed my wedding ceremony. For $25.00 he became a reverend through some site on the internet. The man who introduced Pealette to her husband did the same thing for them.

Maybe a close friend of either BD or fsil can do that and officiate.

Nobody becomes a real "reverend" for $25 or over the Internet.

Same goes for doctors, lawyers, . . .

Hmmmmm...... you would be the last person I would expect to start talking about 'real' anything. I am sure we have both been told we are not 'real' parents.

Jim is a reverend and performed the ceremony. Dan is a reverend and performed the ceremony.

http://www.themonastery.org/?destination=ordination

My kids don't call me Dad because I collected enough box tops or could draw Tippy the Turtle, and then printed a certificate off of my computer.

Hey, I just printed a certificate off that says that I am a cardiac surgeon. How about I practice on you?

[Appa23]

In all seriousness, this apparently is an ever-growing legal question.

A Pennsylvania judge recently declared a marriage to be invalid because the officiant was a "mail-order" ULC "minister" (as he did not comply with the state statute for officiants.)

http://religionnews.com/ArticleofWeek110107.html


Here is a New York Times article from last year about whether a ULC minister legally can marry someone.

http://www.nytimes.com/2007/08/05/fashion/05marry.html

I blame Joey!

[peacock2121]

hmmmmm

How many divorces were and will be unnecessary?

What a hoot!