My moment of sentimentality

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NellyLunatic1980 · #1 Post by **NellyLunatic1980** » Tue Mar 18, 2008 10:25 am

My firstborn son, Terrell, would have been 12 years old today.

<sigh>...

MarleysGh0st · #2 Post by **MarleysGh0st** » Tue Mar 18, 2008 12:21 pm

This thread shouldn't go without any replies, but I think this is another occasion where nobody knows what to say.

Condolences to you on this bittersweet day, Nelly.

I think you've told us this before, but how and when did Terrell die?

PlacentiaSoccerMom · #3 Post by **PlacentiaSoccerMom** » Tue Mar 18, 2008 12:35 pm

I didn't know what to say. I have never lost a child and can't even imagine your pain.

christie1111 · #4 Post by **christie1111** » Tue Mar 18, 2008 12:41 pm

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I am with Marley, I don't think I know the story. If it isn't too painful, would you want to post it?

silvercamaro · #5 Post by **silvercamaro** » Tue Mar 18, 2008 12:50 pm

Hugs for you, Nelly.

marrymeflyfree · #6 Post by **marrymeflyfree** » Tue Mar 18, 2008 1:11 pm

Many hugs to you and your family...I hope you are able to be comforted by good memories today, and glad that you're still celebrating the occasion of his birth.

NellyLunatic1980 · #7 Post by **NellyLunatic1980** » Tue Mar 18, 2008 1:32 pm

MarleysGh0st wrote:I think you've told us this before, but how and when did Terrell die?

Yeah, it happened on the afternoon of Sunday, August 7, 2005. As I recall, we were in the middle of a gushunt when I posted this on The Ugly Bored® the morning after. Terrell and his best friend were shot and killed while playing basketball with their friends. It was a random act of gang violence that the kids were unknowingly and unfortunately in the middle of. I disappeared from the Bored for several months after that. Although his death is not as painful to me now as it was then, not a day goes by that I don't think about it.

PlacentiaSoccerMom · #8 Post by **PlacentiaSoccerMom** » Tue Mar 18, 2008 1:34 pm

He was only 9 years old? I am so sorry. Did the police find the person who shot him?

NellyLunatic1980 · #9 Post by **NellyLunatic1980** » Tue Mar 18, 2008 2:27 pm

PlacentiaSoccerMom wrote:He was only 9 years old? I am so sorry. Did the police find the person who shot him?

They did after a couple of months. Turned out he was involved in another murder a couple of weeks later a couple of blocks from that basketball court.

tlynn78 · #10 Post by **tlynn78** » Tue Mar 18, 2008 2:29 pm

I think there can be nothing more heartbreaking than the senseless death of a child. My heart cries for your pain, Nelly, but is lifted by how you seen able to remember the joy. You are very strong.

t.

ghostjmf · #11 Post by **ghostjmf** » Tue Mar 18, 2008 2:54 pm

I do remember the horrible story & think about it often, though that won't help you. My heart goes out to people senselessly killed like that. And their families. He still lives in your heart; always remember the good times.

kayrharris · #12 Post by **kayrharris** » Tue Mar 18, 2008 4:44 pm

I'm so sorry Nelly. I can't imagine having to live through what you did. If anyone is allowed a moment of sentimentality, it's you. May he rest in peace.