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I just said goodbye to my father

#1 Post by Bob Juch » Tue Mar 10, 2009 10:30 pm

I'm in Castro Valley where my sister lives. She's taking care of my father (with home hospice care) as of a week ago. The chances he'll make his 92nd birthday on the 31st are not good. I saw him last night and most of today and just said goodbye.
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#2 Post by silvercamaro » Tue Mar 10, 2009 10:34 pm

I'm sorry, Bob. I am glad you got the chance to talk with him again.
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#3 Post by ontellen » Tue Mar 10, 2009 10:35 pm

Just be thankful you got to say goodbye. I didn't with either of my parents and I wish I had had that chance. You may not appreciate it for a while but eventually you will.

All the best to you at this time, Bob.
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#4 Post by franktangredi » Tue Mar 10, 2009 10:39 pm

Bob Juch wrote:I'm in Castro Valley where my sister lives. She's taking care of my father (with home hospice care) as of a week ago. The chances he'll make his 92nd birthday on the 31st are not good. I saw him last night and most of today and just said goodbye.
My thoughts are with you, Bob. I'm glad you got to say goodbye.

I was struck to see that our fathers share a birthday. My Dad would have been 78 on the 31st.
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#5 Post by SportsFan68 » Tue Mar 10, 2009 10:43 pm

I'm glad you got there in time, Bob. Those last goodbyes are special.

I hope your father's last days are restful and pain-free.
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#6 Post by a1mamacat » Tue Mar 10, 2009 11:36 pm

So sorry for the loss you are facing. You are blessed to have the time to say your goodbyes.
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#7 Post by Bob78164 » Tue Mar 10, 2009 11:53 pm

Bob Juch wrote:I'm in Castro Valley where my sister lives. She's taking care of my father (with home hospice care) as of a week ago. The chances he'll make his 92nd birthday on the 31st are not good. I saw him last night and most of today and just said goodbye.
I'm glad you got that chance, and took advantage of it. --Bob
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#8 Post by TheConfessor » Wed Mar 11, 2009 12:24 am

Bob, I'm glad you were able to make good use of your employment break. Your dad is a great-great-grandfather, right? Not many people can say that. I hope everything goes as well as possible for him in the time he has left. Best wishes to you and your family.
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#9 Post by christie1111 » Wed Mar 11, 2009 5:04 am

It is great you got to see him.

I am sure it will help to make those moments that are coming easier to endure.

I treasure the visit I had with my grandmother in hospice.

I miss her very much.
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#10 Post by BackInTex » Wed Mar 11, 2009 5:57 am

Bob I'm glad you were able to visit him and to say goodbye. I'm sure you will cherish that moment, even as hard and sad as it may have been.

I'm also sorry for your current situation and impending loss.


btw, his birthday is the same as my oldest. She will be 16 on the 31st.
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#11 Post by MarleysGh0st » Wed Mar 11, 2009 6:04 am

I'm sorry, Bob.
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#12 Post by Sir_Galahad » Wed Mar 11, 2009 6:19 am

Bob, I can sympathize with your bittersweet moment. Good memories are cherished forever.
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#13 Post by Flybrick » Wed Mar 11, 2009 7:11 am

My condolences.

Yesterday was the 10 year anniversary for my father's death. Similar circumstances and I, too, got to say goodbye.

I think they just want to know they did ok raising you and that you'll be ok.

I have no doubt your father was comforted by the positives for both of those concerns.

God Bless and good luck.
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#14 Post by trevor_macfee » Wed Mar 11, 2009 7:13 am

A real blessing to be able to say goodbye. Glad you got the chance to do that - that'll be one less thing to ruminate on later.
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#15 Post by T_Bone0806 » Wed Mar 11, 2009 7:26 am

Wishing you strength and comfort.
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#16 Post by kayrharris » Wed Mar 11, 2009 7:49 am

Same age as my mom...and I'm really not sure she knew I made it there to see her.
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#17 Post by sunflower » Wed Mar 11, 2009 7:54 am

I think everyone has already said everything I would say, so all that's left is I'm sorry, and I hope that you will find peace in the days ahead knowing that you had the chance to say goodbye.
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#18 Post by nitrah55 » Wed Mar 11, 2009 8:39 am

Peace to you and your father.
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#19 Post by Beebs52 » Wed Mar 11, 2009 9:58 am

I'm sorry about your dad, too, Bob. And ditto what others have said.
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#20 Post by ghostjmf » Wed Mar 11, 2009 10:12 am

Its good you got to get out to be with him. Its sad that you can't stay awhile longer.
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#21 Post by mrkelley23 » Wed Mar 11, 2009 5:37 pm

Being able to say goodbye to people who matter most is high on my list of desires for the end of times. I'm glad you got the chance to do so with your father.
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#22 Post by mellytu74 » Wed Mar 11, 2009 7:07 pm

Echoing everyone else's sentiments.

It's good you got to say goodbye. I am sure that will help you in the days ahead.
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#23 Post by gsabc » Wed Mar 11, 2009 7:11 pm

I'm so sorry to hear about this, Bob. Sending thoughts and prayers to you and your family.
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#24 Post by Bob Juch » Wed Mar 11, 2009 7:25 pm

Thanks to each of you!

I'm glad I got to see him one more time; I had seen him last October. Staying longer wouldn't have changed things. He's lost a lot of his mental facilities. He's just plain wearing out; there's no one thing.

I'm in Winnemucca right now, on my way to Boise. I'm needed there. After that I'll be back in Denver. I'm needed there too.
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#25 Post by Timsterino » Sat Mar 14, 2009 9:33 am

I am very sorry Bob. You have my condolences.

Erika's father died last Sunday. She did not have a chance to say goodbye.
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