RIP Dolores Aguilar

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Bob Juch · #1 Post by **Bob Juch** » Thu Aug 21, 2008 3:44 am

Dolores Aguilar 1929 - Aug. 7, 2008

Dolores Aguilar, born in 1929 in New Mexico, left us on August 7, 2008. She will be met in the afterlife by her husband, Raymond, her son, Paul Jr., and daughter, Ruby. She is survived by her daughters Marietta, Mitzi, Stella, Beatrice, Virginia and Ramona, and son Billy; grandchildren, Donnelle, Joe, Mitzie, Maria, Mario, Marty, Tynette, Tania, Leta, Alexandria, Tommy, Billy, Mathew, Raymond, Kenny, Javier, Lisa, Ashlie and Michael; great-grandchildren, Brendan, Joseph, Karissa, Jacob, Delaney, Shawn, Cienna, Bailey, Christian, Andre Jr., Andrea, Keith, Saeed, Nujaymah, Salma, Merissa, Emily, Jayci, Isabella, Samantha and Emily. I apologize if I missed anyone.

Dolores had no hobbies, made no contribution to society and rarely shared a kind word or deed in her life. I speak for the majority of her family when I say her presence will not be missed by many, very few tears will be shed and there will be no lamenting over her passing. Her family will remember Dolores and amongst ourselves we will remember her in our own way, which were mostly sad and troubling times throughout the years. We may have some fond memories of her and perhaps we will think of those times too. But I truly believe at the end of the day ALL of us will really only miss what we never had, a good and kind mother, grandmother and great-grandmother. I hope she is finally at peace with herself.

As for the rest of us left behind, I hope this is the beginning of a time of healing and learning to be a family again. There will be no service, no prayers and no closure for the family she spent a lifetime tearing apart. We cannot come together in the end to see to it that her grandchildren and great-grandchildren can say their goodbyes. So I say here for all of us, GOOD BYE, MOM.

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Yes, that's her real obit.

peacock2121 · #2 Post by **peacock2121** » Thu Aug 21, 2008 5:37 am

Holy crap.

Maybe this obit is the beginning of the family healing. I hope so.

NellyLunatic1980 · #3 Post by **NellyLunatic1980** » Thu Aug 21, 2008 5:48 am

I know it's in poor taste to laugh at an obituary, but I couldn't help it this time. It was so sad, it was hilarious.

MarleysGh0st · #4 Post by **MarleysGh0st** » Thu Aug 21, 2008 6:17 am

Yeesh!

gsabc · #5 Post by **gsabc** » Thu Aug 21, 2008 6:47 am

Already posted on Snopes, with some explanation.

http://www.snopes.com/media/iftrue/obituary.asp

Dolores Aguilar · #6 Post by **Dolores Aguilar** » Thu Aug 21, 2008 6:59 am

Ay caramba! My own family won't let me rest in peace. All I ever did wrong was to love them with every fiber of my being. We never had a lot, so I let my daughters get used to getting by on nothing. And believe me when I say nothing was too good for them. They deserved less! They were so ungrateful. I brought them into this world, why should I be expected to hand them all their desires on a silk pillow? Their boyfriends, their clothes, their music, I could go on forever.

And I will, too, as soon as I can find someone to listen to me.

MarleysGh0st · #7 Post by **MarleysGh0st** » Thu Aug 21, 2008 7:10 am

gsabc wrote:Already posted on Snopes, with some explanation.

So she read someone else's glowing obituary and decided she needed this public airing of the family laundry? I wonder how the other survivors felt about saying what she did about her mother?

Dolores Aguilar · #8 Post by **Dolores Aguilar** » Thu Aug 21, 2008 7:13 am

MarleysGh0st wrote:
gsabc wrote:Already posted on Snopes, with some explanation.
So she read someone else's glowing obituary and decided she needed this public airing of the family laundry? I wonder how the other survivors felt about saying what she did about her mother?

Who cares about what the survivors felt? What about my feelings? Just because my body is lying in the cold, cold ground doesn't mean my feelings can't be hurt.

MarleysGh0st · #9 Post by **MarleysGh0st** » Thu Aug 21, 2008 7:20 am

Dolores Aguilar wrote:
MarleysGh0st wrote:
gsabc wrote:Already posted on Snopes, with some explanation.
So she read someone else's glowing obituary and decided she needed this public airing of the family laundry? I wonder how the other survivors felt about saying what she did about her mother?
Who cares about what the survivors felt? What about my feelings? Just because my body is lying in the cold, cold ground doesn't mean my feelings can't be hurt.

Would you like an introductory lesson on haunting?

Not that my hauntings have done much good, lately.

Bob Juch · #10 Post by **Bob Juch** » Thu Aug 21, 2008 7:34 am

Dolores Aguilar wrote:
MarleysGh0st wrote:
gsabc wrote:Already posted on Snopes, with some explanation.
So she read someone else's glowing obituary and decided she needed this public airing of the family laundry? I wonder how the other survivors felt about saying what she did about her mother?
Who cares about what the survivors felt? What about my feelings? Just because my body is lying in the cold, cold ground doesn't mean my feelings can't be hurt.

I'm fairly certain they didn't prop you up in the corner during your wake.

PlacentiaSoccerMom · #11 Post by **PlacentiaSoccerMom** » Thu Aug 21, 2008 7:52 am

I wonder if the daughter feels good about the obituary. It might have been more healing for her just to let it go and not place an obituary at all.

MarleysGh0st · #12 Post by **MarleysGh0st** » Thu Aug 21, 2008 7:56 am

PlacentiaSoccerMom wrote:I wonder if the daughter feels good about the obituary. It might have been more healing for her just to let it go and not place an obituary at all.

Or to simply say "there will be no service" and leave it at that.

SportsFan68 · #13 Post by **SportsFan68** » Thu Aug 21, 2008 9:26 am

I like the part where the newspaper demanded a copy of the death certificate to make sure it wasn't a hoax.

There are the glowing obits, and then there's this. I feel confident that in Ms. Aguilar's case, the truth is somewhere in between.

ulysses5019 · #14 Post by **ulysses5019** » Thu Aug 21, 2008 11:33 am

Dolores Aguilar wrote:Ay caramba! My own family won't let me rest in peace. All I ever did wrong was to love them with every fiber of my being. We never had a lot, so I let my daughters get used to getting by on nothing. And believe me when I say nothing was too good for them. They deserved less! They were so ungrateful. I brought them into this world, why should I be expected to hand them all their desires on a silk pillow? Their boyfriends, their clothes, their music, I could go on forever.

And I will, too, as soon as I can find someone to listen to me.

Ok, so now we have a third gh0st on this bored?

PlacentiaSoccerMom · #15 Post by **PlacentiaSoccerMom** » Thu Aug 21, 2008 12:01 pm

SportsFan68 wrote: There are the glowing obits, and then there's this. I feel confident that in Ms. Aguilar's case, the truth is somewhere in between.

The sad thing is that people who are dead, can't defend themselves.

silvercamaro · #16 Post by **silvercamaro** » Thu Aug 21, 2008 12:17 pm

I think it was unfair to say that Dolores contributed nothing to society. After all, she obviously contributed at least one angry, resentful, and vengeful daughter, perhaps very much like herself.

kayrharris · #17 Post by **kayrharris** » Thu Aug 21, 2008 1:26 pm

What's that saying....."it takes one to know one"....

which may apply here.