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nitrah55 · #1 Post by **nitrah55** » Mon Mar 24, 2008 8:42 am

The good news is, after several months of being at the top of the waiting list, my mom will be able to move into an assisted living place maybe as early as next week (assuming she passes the evaluation, which she will likely do).

The bad news is, Mom, at the age of 90, dreads change, even if the change is an improvement, and is getting herself into a state about the move.

Good thoughts and prayers requested for her, please. And if I seem a bit more snappish than usual over the next week or so, forgive me.

mrkelley23 · #2 Post by **mrkelley23** » Mon Mar 24, 2008 8:44 am

I'll be thinking about you, nitrah.

Those clouds are looming on the distant horizon for me, too.

At least you know you've got a built-in support group of been-there, done-thats on this Bored.

MarleysGh0st · #3 Post by **MarleysGh0st** » Mon Mar 24, 2008 8:53 am

Where is your mom living now, nitrah?

nitrah55 · #4 Post by **nitrah55** » Mon Mar 24, 2008 9:04 am

Right now, Mom is at a care center (what we used to call nursing home) in Riverhead, on Eastern Long Island. She has pretty much rehabbed from her broken hip (although she is not walking without a walker and an aide spotting her).

She will be moving to a Sunrise facility in Dix Hills, closer to where I live. It's a great facilty- looks like a B&B, not institutional at all. Heck, I'm ready to move in there.

Her issues are more attitudinal than physical right now. She's sweet and subborn, and not given to expressing how she feels. I am expecting she will internalize her anxiety about moving; rather than hollering, she will act depressed.

Thanks for asking.

kayrharris · #5 Post by **kayrharris** » Mon Mar 24, 2008 9:08 am

Good luck, Nitrah. It sounds like a great place, so maybe she'll really like it once she gets there. We can certainly hope so anyway.

MarleysGh0st · #6 Post by **MarleysGh0st** » Mon Mar 24, 2008 9:17 am

nitrah55 wrote:She will be moving to a Sunrise facility in Dix Hills, closer to where I live. It's a great facilty- looks like a B&B, not institutional at all. Heck, I'm ready to move in there.

That does sound like a great place. Good luck with your mom's attitudinal adjustment!

ksbirchtree · #7 Post by **ksbirchtree** » Mon Mar 24, 2008 10:33 am

nitrah55 wrote:The good news is, after several months of being at the top of the waiting list, my mom will be able to move into an assisted living place maybe as early as next week (assuming she passes the evaluation, which she will likely do).

The bad news is, Mom, at the age of 90, dreads change, even if the change is an improvement, and is getting herself into a state about the move.

Good thoughts and prayers requested for her, please. And if I seem a bit more snappish than usual over the next week or so, forgive me.

Good thoughts coming your way. We moved my Mom, also 90, into assisted living last December. We thought she was adjusting OK, but yesterday after Easter dinner at my sister's house, she didn't want to be taken home. Normally she would have gone home around 2 pm, but it was 8 pm before my sister finally got her to go. I imagine the staff at her place was really wondering what was going on, as we didn't have enough meds for her to be gone so long. We suspect she's really unhappy there, but won't tell us as she know there aren't any other options.

Her place is really nice, and I would also like to live there -- just plop down in the dining room and have 3 squares a day -- no cooking, no dishes, no cleaning!
Christy

Bob Juch · #8 Post by **Bob Juch** » Mon Mar 24, 2008 10:40 am

My father turns 91 a week from today. He still plays at least 9 holes of golf every day. He says he's never played as well as he does now.

He will never wind up in a care facility.

peacock2121 · #9 Post by **peacock2121** » Mon Mar 24, 2008 11:30 am

You have my ggod thoughts and my empathy.

Keep loving her and keep what is best for her not just in front of you but in front of her as well.

Also - all of this stuff sure beats the alternative.

peacock2121 · #10 Post by **peacock2121** » Mon Mar 24, 2008 11:31 am

Bob Juch wrote:My father turns 91 a week from today. He still plays at least 9 holes of golf every day. He says he's never played as well as he does now.

He will never wind up in a care facility.

Yikers. You might want to watch that.

Bob Juch · #11 Post by **Bob Juch** » Mon Mar 24, 2008 11:33 am

peacock2121 wrote:
Bob Juch wrote:My father turns 91 a week from today. He still plays at least 9 holes of golf every day. He says he's never played as well as he does now.

He will never wind up in a care facility.
Yikers. You might want to watch that.

Watch which?

peacock2121 · #12 Post by **peacock2121** » Mon Mar 24, 2008 11:33 am

Oh, and Nitrah.... if you get a few more bite mes from me over the next couple of weeks, you will know that you are indeed being a bit more snappish.

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