My Mother

[rebel2008]

Wow. Just Wow.

Just to add onto the same pile. You were 100% right to do what you did.

I had a toxic mother as well who told me point blank, "You will never amount to anything in your life." I have since cut off contact with her.

I am sorry.

Jason

[Rexer25]

But I'm sure PlacentiaSoccerMom'sMom will be along shortly to tell us how it REALLY went down, and how she REALLY feels and how you should REALLY feel about it.

I have it on good authority that PSM'M will not be posting here any more.

[christie1111]

For instance, she slapped me on my wedding day when I was getting ready to walk down the aisle.

Well, that would pretty much do it for me.

I don't remember this story, have you told it before?

The biggest emotional stress of my wedding day other than the normal stuff was confusion over an appointment for a manicure. I had stayed at my Dad and step-mother's house the night before since the wedding was in their area. When I had called for a manicure at the place my step-mother recommended (and Dad had said he would pay for) they said they already had a reservation under my last name. It didn't occur to me that my step-mother had made a reservation for herself (same last name) so instead of 2 reservations, there was only one.

She was not a happy person at this time in her life and was quite upset that this mistake had occurred. She had a little hissy fit that brought me to tears and stormed off. My aunt told me that my step-mother could stuff it, it was MY wedding day and to go get my nails done and not think even one minute about it. Aunt MaryAnn was great and I miss her, but I treasure the INCREDIBLE sewing machine she left me so I can think of her when I sew. This aunt was from Evansville and is one of the reasons I always think happy thought about that town.

My step-mother is a much happier person these days and we have a good relationship. She would be much more gracious now.

[PlacentiaSoccerMom]

The wedding announcer had made an announcement at the rehearsal dinner that only the bridal party should be in the dressing room the morning of the wedding. I wanted things to be calm and low key because I had a horrible cold that day and because I didn't want to deal with any emotional scenes. My mother, still smarting from the fact that my Dad was going to walk down the aisle, started bringing her friends in the room to say hello. I couldn't get ready and I was running late. I asked her to stop bringing her friends in and that's when she slapped me.

Later on at the reception, she made her dramatic exit and tearfully announced to everyone that she was going to the cemetery.

[geoffil]

You did the right thing. She gets unhappy during the holidays and wants everyone to be unhappy too. It sounds like nothing makes her happy except being unhappy. Don't feel guilty. I bet her Christmases were not pleasant when she was growing up. Tell her what you expect from her and if she doesn't want to do it, then she can enjoy Christmas without your family. Maybe when she realizes that you aren't giving in to her, she might have a change of heart. Or not.,

[themanintheseersuckersuit]

The wedding announcer had made an announcement at the rehearsal dinner that only the bridal party should be in the dressing room the morning of the wedding. I wanted things to be calm and low key because I had a horrible cold that day and because I didn't want to deal with any emotional scenes. My mother, still smarting from the fact that my Dad was going to walk down the aisle, started bringing her friends in the room to say hello. I couldn't get ready and I was running late. I asked her to stop bringing her friends in and that's when she slapped me.

Later on at the reception, she made her dramatic exit and tearfully announced to everyone that she was going to the cemetery.

Holy Crap!

[Sugar Lips]

The wedding announcer had made an announcement at the rehearsal dinner that only the bridal party should be in the dressing room the morning of the wedding. I wanted things to be calm and low key because I had a horrible cold that day and because I didn't want to deal with any emotional scenes. My mother, still smarting from the fact that my Dad was going to walk down the aisle, started bringing her friends in the room to say hello. I couldn't get ready and I was running late. I asked her to stop bringing her friends in and that's when she slapped me.

Later on at the reception, she made her dramatic exit and tearfully announced to everyone that she was going to the cemetery.

Holy Crap!

My sentiments. Wow.

[Bob Juch]

The wedding announcer had made an announcement at the rehearsal dinner that only the bridal party should be in the dressing room the morning of the wedding. I wanted things to be calm and low key because I had a horrible cold that day and because I didn't want to deal with any emotional scenes. My mother, still smarting from the fact that my Dad was going to walk down the aisle, started bringing her friends in the room to say hello. I couldn't get ready and I was running late. I asked her to stop bringing her friends in and that's when she slapped me.

Later on at the reception, she made her dramatic exit and tearfully announced to everyone that she was going to the cemetery.

I would have suggested that she stay there.

[geoffil]

Bob you are so funny.

It sounds like when she isn't the center of attention she creates drama to become noticed, but not in a good way. She is what Oprah calls a "toxic" person. You can't change them. They can only change themselves.